Why adult stores mistrust sex bloggers/reviewers
Prior to starting my blog, I had only been reviewing sex toys I had purchased myself and then posting my review on the company’s website. I had been doing this for years. I finally took a leap of faith and decided I was experienced enough to start out on my own. My plan was to write up my reviews on my own blog. Along with this I planned on writing articles on my sexual experiences and offering up advice for anyone who was interested.
I wanted to take my reviewing to the next level, maybe get some toys as a type of commission for my honest unbiased reviews and relatable feedback. I saw other sex bloggers/reviewers doing this very thing, so I knew that if I was to market myself right that I too could get a slice of the pie so to speak.
I spent a lot of time and effort getting The Oooh! Review ready for public viewing, now all I needed to do was connect with the right people or, so I thought.
What I hadn’t considered was how adult sex shops would view me. It soon became apparent that it was going to be very hard for these companies to have any kind of trust in me at all.
After connecting with a few company managers, it soon became apparent that these companies had been lead down the garden path many times before. I got told the horror stories they had went through when starting out and the pitfalls they encountered. They were telling me how they would send out products in good faith and would never hear from these SO-CALLED SEX BLOGGERS again.
I was horrified, how the hell was I ever going to get this to work with such a distrust?
I am such a loyal honest person and the world around me tends to shock me and this is one of those times. It hadn’t even crossed my mind that some people would exploit companies in this way. How exactly are us honest and genuine reviewers meant to get a good name for ourselves with all the fakes going around?
I have even had a company ask me if I can purchase a product from them first just, so they know I am genuine and not just in it for the free toys. For me I didn’t start out wanting free toys, as stated earlier I had been buying them and reviewing them myself for years. Yes, once I got to the point where I felt I would be doing the company a service then of course the toys as commission was an interest for me.
Mainly I just wanted to help other toy purchasers know if the product was worth spending their hard-earned cash on. After spending lots of my own money on toys which left me disappointed. I knew how this made me feel especially if I had spent that money on myself when I could have spent it on a day out with the kids.
For me I think the most important thing about collaborating with adult toy stores is having a genuine good working relationship. I don’t just want to be a name on their list. I want us to work together. I will show my full support for them and I expect the same in return. I try to make sure that I put 100% effort into reviewing and advertising their products.
Nothing makes me more happy than great feedback on my reviews from the company involved. Knowing that they are happy with my work. Now that’s not saying I always give the product a glowing review as if the product I test has issues, sure as hell I’m going to be letting people know. But what I’m trying to get at here, is that I want to have a good relationship with the people I work for, for them to trust me and know I am there to support them and NOT exploit them.
I am disheartened by the whole mistrust. Knowing that right from the very beginning I am being judged on others disgusting behaviour. Best of all I don’t even blame these companies for it I’m sure I would be the same.
The advice I would give adult toy stores is to really consider the bloggers background. Do a google search and see what comes up, check their social media accounts. It would even be better for you to have a pre-set list of questions. Find out as much information as you can before making any commitments or sending out your products. I find it highly unlikely that a good blogger who has dedicated a lot of time both on their blog and on social media would risk it all to just get a free toy.
I have had many companies say to me that they know sex bloggers can either be the making or breaking of them, and whilst I agree with this I think it’s important that companies are aware that the same applies for sex bloggers/reviewers. Adult toy stores can be the making or breaking of us as well.
We rely on these companies providing us with products to review, giving us content to continue our work. If an adult toy store was to go onto twitter for example and tell everyone that I had exploited them, I don’t think I would ever get another product to review again. Mud sticks.
It is for that reason I think it’s crucial that these companies do their homework first. I know some amazing, honest, genuine sex bloggers and I think it’s a great injustice that these fake bloggers/reviewers are making it so much harder for them to continue the amazing work that they do. I know the work that goes into it and it’s not easy managing so many things at once. It’s a shame that people can taint it as they do.
And to all those genuine, amazing bloggers/reviewers that I’m talking about, just keep doing what you are doing. You are doing an amazing job at educating people and you really are making a difference.
I have written this blog for the sole purpose to have a rant about the situation I am sure a lot of people reading this will understand.
I would love to hear people’s thoughts on this matter both bloggers and store owners, is this really a bigger problem than even I am aware of?
Thanks for reading