Bound To Please – BDSM

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Bound To Please

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I know that a lot of people can find BDSM a little intimadating, in fact for a large number of people that i speak with, it seems maybe they have been misinformed of the practice. They have the impression that its for a select bunch of sex crazed people into extreme BDSM practices, like asphyxiation or genital torture. Whilst it is true that this is part of BDSM, it’s not always or all about that.

I am a people watcher and by that i don’t mean like a peeping tom, i like to sit with a coffee and look out my window at the world and people around me, wondering what they get up to behind closed doors, is this well dressed business women getting a spanking tonight?

I am a full time stay at home mum, i have four children, two of which are disabled, a husband, a nice house and a dog. To the outside world i am shy and quiet and probably the last person you would pick out in the street as into BDSM. Yet i love nothing more than being spanked, tied up and blindfolded. I guess what i am trying to get at is, you just never know what people are into and i don’t think there is a type, or a group of people that you can ear mark as being into BDSM.

Look at what happened when 50 shades of grey was first released, the world went crazy for it, it didn’t do well because a select group of people could relate to it, no it was selling out all over the place because regular everyday people found it exciting. Actually for me i wasn’t really that impressed and found it to be a little vanilla, guess a sex crazed, BDSM creature like myself needed a little more action to make me happy, hehe.

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I have never tried asphyxiation or genital torture and despite what you might think even a sex toy reviewing, sex blogger like myself is not into extreme BDSM. I guess to some, my sexual preferences still might be off the radar, but for others i’m actually fairly vanilla. Yeah really.

So what am i into and why do i love it?

For me and KD our BDSM practice is spanking, blindfolding and restraining. I am most definitely a submissive and KD is my dom/master/sir. I think that all SUB/DOM relationships differ just as any relationship does. It can mean one thing to someone and something completely different to another.

For me, being his submissive means i give him my full trust, i respect his decisions and submit myself fully to him. I want to please him wherever possible, i want to show him my love and devotion and not just say it. Even at my most vulnerable i know he will keep me safe from harm, that i can lean on him for support, that he will protect me physically and emotionally.

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For him being my DOM/Sir means that he is my protector, my source of strength. He is the person who protects my integrity, brings out the better person in me, he is the one who will keep me grounded, and the one who tries everyday to make me see in myself, what he sees in me. His duty to me, is to make me feel sexy and confident, to allow me to express myself fully without judgment.

This is how we live our day to day SUB/DOM life.

So that’s the foundation/centre of our BDSM relationship, then from there, grow the other branches of the BDSM tree.

 

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For me the bondage & discipline side of BDSM really comes alive behind a locked bedroom door. It opens a world of possibilities, wonder and excitement, for here is where i am am not longer that sweet little girl next door or the straight laced mummy at the school gates. In this world i wear a collar to show i’m his, to have as he will, to glory in his pleasure and in mine.

This is the side of BDSM where i can show him how much i trust him, i can put my full faith in him, and show him my respect. I can be BOUND TO PLEASE.

In the beginning of our BDSM relationship we used discipline a lot, one of his pre set rules for me to follow was to say yes or no sir when spoken too, i found this really difficult and would always forget, however today i am a good girl and i do as i’m told. so this side doesn’t really come into play much. Although i will admit to sometimes pushing the boundaries for a nice sharp spank, hehe.

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The pleasure i get from being restrained, blindfolded, gagged and spanked mostly comes from knowing how much pleasure KD gets from feeling in control. Seeing me be so vulnerable for him, because he finds it so intoxicating, his passion seems to rub off on me. The other reason i love it so much is the fact it heightens all my emotions and senses, making sex explosive.

 

There is something about being bound in rope that excites me,

maybe it’s the feeling of being vulnerable

or maybe its the fact that it pleases KD,

or maybe both.

 

We don’t always practice our BDSM ways, in fact most of the time we just get down and dirty without all the bells and whistles. Lots of lube and toys and we have just as much fun.

As for the last branch of the tree both me and KD don’t practice it, we had a conversation about our Hard zones (what we didn’t, feel comfortable with) and sadism & masochism crossed the line in some areas for us. So you see everyone is different. Of course there will be people who also enjoy extreme BDSM and all aspects of it, but you don’t have to practice all aspects to enjoy it. Even just using a set of pink fluffy cuffs is enough. 🙂

So that’s why i love BDSM and why i think a lot of people get the wrong impression of what it does or should involve. I hope this post can offer some people an insight into the not so scary, every day world of BDSM.

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