Does she prefer her sex toy to me?
Okay guys this one is for you.
I get asked this question all the time, men worried that they are not good enough. That their wives or girlfriends seem to get off to their toys better than with them. So, I am going to lay it all out there. Honesty is after all, the best policy. I am a female sex toy tester and I am married. Who better to answer this question?
I could tell you that sex toys are never better than the real thing, this would be easy but it’s a little more complicated than that. Whilst I firmly agree there is no replacement for the real thing, I think the lines can get slightly blurred. Let me try to explain.
I have had partners that were dead against me using sex toys especially dildos. They felt intimidated by their size. Almost felt inferior. I never used to think of it in that way. For me sex toys were just a prop. Something I thought added a little excitement. Like when you buy a nice car but pimp it up. It’s great as it is but if you can make it better then why not? You want it to be the best you can make it. Well sex toys for me are like pimping up my ride.
I would never compare my partner to my toys, I didn’t give it any thought. Do I love the feeling of them? Yes. It’s a cock and its fucking me of course I like it. If it’s bigger than you will it make me moan louder? Probably. This doesn’t mean it’s better than you. It’s not that I would wish you to be bigger. Sex toys are incredible but the real thing is way better. Warm bodies, Gasps of breath and spontaneity. Even a small thing like the feeling of a man’s cock twitching inside you.
What I think most men fail to understand is that sex toys all have one thing in common. They are designed to pleasure and replicate the real thing. Especially dildos and dongs. They are made of some amazing materials. Even at that they are not skin and blood. Sex toy manufacturers are getting better all the time, everyday there is a new product launched onto the market. Everyday getting more and more realistic.
I have had so many sexy toys I have lost count exactly. Not one of them was exactly like a real cock. The material is harder and less pliable. I use dildos all the time with my husband, and I always end up begging him to fuck me. Why? well because nothing is ever as good as the real thing.
The other thing I should cover is how easily a sex toy can get me off. I won’t lie sex toys win here for me by a mile. I can be a tough nut to crack when it comes to making me orgasm. My husband would vouch for that. Powerful sex toys can have me climaxing in under a minute whereas it can take my husband anywhere from 10 – 20 minutes. Obviously when it comes to speed the sex toy wins.
But does this mean anything? I don’t think so. If you look at it from the point of view that most clitoral orgasms are a result of continued stimulation. I don’t care how fast your hand goes or how quick you can move your tongue, you’re never going to beat the speed of a motor. I wouldn’t compare the two, it would be completely unrealistic. Sure, my toy will get me off quicker but the orgasms I have at the touch of my husband are far more powerful and satisfying.
Don’t be intimidated by sex toys, embrace them. Enjoy using them on her. Pick ones out that you both like the look of. Experiment with them. Make them part of foreplay, try to tease her with them. Make her horny and ready for you. Don’t see them as competition but more of an aid. If you let go of all your insecurities about them I am sure you will see just how much pleasure they can add to your sex life. You can even pick some sex toys for you too. Yes, there are sex toys for men. I love using sex toys on my husband it’s a huge turn on. However, I know without a doubt, no sex toy I used on him has been as good as me.
I really hope this helps answer the question, if she likes her sex toy better than you. I may not be able to speak for 100% of women but I’m pretty sure she would tell you she doesn’t.
Thanks for reading