Well if you have found your way to this blog you have obviously found yourself either in this situation or you find you want to know more about why your partner is just no longer a sex crazed horny devil that wants it every 6 seconds.
So we all know or have heard the jokes about once your married sex stops or no more blow jobs. This is true as well for non married couples in longer relationships. However is there really any truth in this.?Well that’s what I want to talk about today, it seems fitting with our blog being all about reviewing adult sex toys, that we should start with the basic foundations, which of course has to be the desire to actually buy these toys in the first place.
When me and mr kinky-D first got together we where both at it like rabbits 🐰 sometimes up to 4/5 times a day basically if cock was about I was on it. 😮😮If it went longer than a day I would be so horny I felt like my pussy would fall out. The pressure was a nightmare and I couldn’t concentrate on what I was meant to be doing during the day. I thought about nothing else other than doing the thang !!!🍆🍆🍆🍆🍆🍆
I never thought that would ever change but one baby later we where down to 3/4 times a week. I don’t think we really had much of a problem with this and neither party felt that they where not having their needs met. We still used toys, role play, he still got many a blow job and sex was still as hot and steamy as ever. Fast forward a few years and more kids and we are down to 1/2 times per month. We figure this is the 7 year itch, mr kinky-D ain’t kinky no more and he doesn’t seem to notice I exist, like maybe he thinks my Pussy fell off or some shit, whatever the cause he wasn’t interested and nor was I.
This continued for many more years without either party really mentioning it, and even when it was mentioned it was from me feeling bad about not keeping up my wifey duties. We would say it must be normal we have kids busy lives, you know all the usual stuff you say in hope that it’s a passing thing, somehow when your kids all move out it will be restored to former days with the click of a switch. Deep down you know, us women I mean, (sorry guys but I can’t speak for you this blog is about women and low sex drive), we just never feel like we want to do the deed. A super sexy hot male showering on tv, no longer presses any buttons, sex scenes on the tv became awkward with your other half, and you don’t know what’s going on. I know, it’s the worst feeling ever to feel you cant keep your husband happy. My biggest problem was I was so scared kinky-D would get fed up with me and seek sex elsewhere. What was worse, was knowing I wouldn’t blame him if he did. Kinky-D has told me he would never have done that and was happy with a shag every 4 weeks but, his comments always told me a different storey. ” im horny” he would say “it’s been a while “, “if I don’t get it now that’s it for a month” you get the picture.
For you guys reading this if your girl is showing these signs please don’t make sly comments, don’t try and lighten the mood with jokes. Sit her down and explain your feelings. Ask her if she may want to examine if there is a health problem or psychological issue going on. Tell her how it makes you feel when she is not intimate with you. Offer to go to the doctors with her. But most importantly examine what you could be doing to help the situation.
My situation was basically that I started to wish I felt like sex 2-3 times per week and would actually be up for it, after all on the few occasions kinky-D would try it on ( he always knew he wouldn’t get it ) once we got going It was all good and we both really enojoyed it, But I wanted, to want it all the time. I looked into issues this could be and had got it down to either a hormone imbalance or something to do with blood flow. Their are lots of treatments out there for any ladies who thinks this might be there problem, but I would suggest just going to your GP who will be able to run a set of tests to see if there are any issues.
As it turns out my problem wasn’t a medical issue and more of a psychological one. Kinky-D has always said he had problems with PE and couldn’t last long with me. I never found this a problem, the way I saw it was he should just cum quickly and get the first time over with so he could enjoy to rest without performance anxiety. Turns out he hated it that much over years he had basically stopped me from touching his manhood during foreplay. I missed cock, touching it, licking it, and sucking it. In not being allowed to indulge in this during foreplay I think it put out my sexual desire fire 🔥. After lots of discussion we realised this could be a major factor towards why I wasn’t as interested in sex anymore
So what did we do about it you ask? Well we spoiled ourself with lots of toys, we decided I would make the effort and aim for 2-3 times per week, even if I had to lube up and just be involved in a quicky. I was going to fake it till I make it and most importantly kinky-D was going to allow me to use some toys on him 😮😮😮😜😜😜😄😄🔥🔥 I mean I’m delighted, he’s said I can play with his hard cock again whenever I want, he’s going to work on it and try to just enjoy it and not worry about cumming. So this is all great news I’m happy he is happy 😊. The toys arrived and they kept me excited, kinky-D loved his new toys and loved me using them on him. After that my desire did not desert me. I even got to a point where I felt I would like to try out new toys all the time and what better way than to become a sex toy tester. So toy after toy, orgasm after orgasm, lube after lube, I am keeping my flame burning as hot as I can. Kinky-D needs to try things out too so I get to have my way with him more, and in the process we discovered products that help delay him, meaning he can go a lot longer, there is a separate review in our blog for this under male delay review.
So no matter what the problem is the good thing to remember is you are not alone, this is a very common problem. It might not happen overnight but there is help out there for you, you just need to be honest with yourself and other half, and look into a solution.
I wish you all the very best in your sex drive hunt and hope you have as much luck in finding it as I did. If you have any questions just ask in the comments and I will do my best to answers.
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