One night stands, should you do it?
When I was just starting to hit the dating scene, one-night stands for women were a very taboo subject in fact i dont think much has changed.. Men gave their friends a pat on the back and congratulated them on such a conquest. Whilst us women had to keep these thrills a secret. Women who had one-night stands were frowned upon and regarded as trashy.
I was one such women, I decided that I had just as much right as a man to express myself sexually, I wasn’t going to care what anyone thought of me. Everyone could have their own opinion whilst I was over here getting fucked and enjoying every second.
Why was it okay to assume women didn’t have the same needs as a man? I know I did. If I wasn’t in a relationship with someone and only had my toys to play with. I would crave sex, yeah sex toys are great but they lacked the warmth and spontaneity of another human. I won’t lie I was a bit of a sex addict, well do you blame me? What’s not to like? The more sex i was having the better.
I would have one-night stands at the weekends. I would go out with my friends with the intention of hooking up with someone. I wasn’t looking for any long meaningful relationship just a quick bunk up to release my sexual frustrations. I will be honest I wasn’t really all that bothered who the man was, I would find someone who would show some interest and it was on. They had cock, I wanted cock, BINGO!!
I didn’t always use protection, I think the alcohol may have played a role in this. After all, how much do you think about the consequences when your intoxicated? This is a subject I would like to discuss a little. I am all for one-night stands in the correct set of circumstances however I do encourage you to make sure you are always being safe. With the rise in sexually transmitted diseases you really don’t want to be taking any risks. There is also the risk that you will get more than you bargained for and end up becoming pregnant.
Even though I was taking a lot of risks, I always got myself checked every few months at the local sexual health clinic. I was lucky that my risk-taking behaviours never got me into trouble. So please really do take care.
For me having a one-night stand was exciting. It was great to have so much variety, I loved trying out new positions and being kinky. I felt it was a great way to explore my sexuality. It was freeing to know I wasn’t going to see this person again. They didn’t need to know anything about me. I could be who I wanted to be and didn’t need to worry about trying to work at a relationship.
Having my own place meant i even had somewhere to go. Once we had fucked I could send them off in a taxi and never have to think of them again. Okay, I should point out that this too comes with its own risks. I never brought anyone back to my place without other people there. I would always let people know the party was back at mine and make sure a lot of people where around. I would never advise anyone to go off on their own with someone they didn’t know.
I would always make sure that my one-night stand knew what he was getting into. I didn’t want anything to come from this, we both needed to agree on that. this was just sex and nothing else. You dont want to ignore your phone over the coming weeks, after they have gotten attached and want to pursue you. For one that’s going to be a pain and second that’s just not fair on them. Some sort of verbal contract is never a bad thing, especially if you’re not looking for anything more than a mutual shag.
If you are thinking about having a one night stand you should always consider all the factors. If you are not sure, Don’t Do It. If after reading this you still want to go ahead then it should be completely your choice. Don’t listen to what others say about you. Only you know your needs. It may be that your needs are greater than the haters are. One things for sure you’re defiantly going to be having more fun. Providing you stay safe and all parties know what they are involved in then I don’t see the harm.
I have had a lot of great experiences, okay some not so much but that’s what it’s all about right? Finding out what you like and don’t like. If I could go back in time I would make sure I was always protected and safe. I don’t think I always done a great job of this and my story could have been a lot different.
If you use common sense and are happy to participate then you can learn a lot about your sexual desires. Enjoy it for what it is. Let go of all those worries and liberate yourself. Stop the taboo.
Thanks for reading
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